September 18th, 2009 DIVA 101: Frisky Friday: Why Silence Is NOT Golden

Language. Often the right words at the right time can send your lover into overdrive.  Whisper how sexy he is, how much you want him, how hot he makes you, and if you love him, why not tell him?

Talk dirty. Between two lovers, dirty talk at the height of passion can ignite a true orgasmic firestorm.  You may feel the bonds of upbrining holding you back, but it can also feel liberating to let them go.  Look him in the eye, and in a breathless whisper say, “I am so wet for you!” or “I want to ride you, BAD,” or “Lick my tits!”  Then watch him race into high gear.  For real fireworks, when you reach that point-of-no-return, scream out, “I’m coming!”

Express yourself. Instead of words, let him know how good he makes you feel with sex sounds.  This will also guide him to keep doing what he’s doing.  Let your low moans, deep breathing, shake-the-rafters ohhhs and long sensual aaaahhhhs be the soundtrack of your growing arousal.

Listen. His vocalizations are clues to what he likes (and what he doesn’t).  And if you hear him moaning, “Just like THAT.  Yes! Right there.  Don’t stop!” - then don’t stop - no matter what!

Ask. It’s okay to find out what he’s craving by coyly asking, “Does this feel good?” or “Should I rub a little harder?”  If you don’t open your mouth, you run the risk of wondering, “Am I doing this right?” or “Does he even like what I’m doing?”

Talk sex. That’s right, but not just when you’re in bed.  Candid discussions out of the heat of passion can lead to much hotter passion later.

Source - Ride ‘Em Cowgirl! by Dr. Sadie Allison